The Paradox of Personal Growth

How We Keep Missing The Point of What Self Development Is All About.

Anthony V. Lombardo
5 min readAug 4, 2021

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Personal growth is paradoxical.

Why does someone embark on a journey to make changes in their life?

Most of the time, personal growth starts from a place of not accepting something about ourselves.

Our discontent for a certain characteristic of ourselves or the state of our life is so strong it forces the need to change.

At times this is exactly what we need when our lives have completely unraveled.

For most other times, it begs the question: aren’t we supposed to accept ourselves, warts and all?

Here’s another one: if self-improvement is meant to connect us with a greater, wiser version of ourselves, then why is it that many of our goals and dreams are driven by our ego’s need for validation?

Whether it’s for recognition, attention, or just to prove something to someone, how many of our desires are fueled by a need to be seen by others?

Or maybe we just want to prove to ourselves that we’re good enough.

Self-help… self-preservation?

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Anthony V. Lombardo
Anthony V. Lombardo

Written by Anthony V. Lombardo

Anthony V. Lombardo is a meditation guide, explorer of consciousness, and digital consultant for Spiritual Entrepreneurs. Join the Tribe: https://rb.gy/0650g

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