Whole, happy, and loved, let’s call them the “big three.”

Can we all agree on some level each of us wants to feel that every day?

Sure, we can.

How amazing would life be if that was our default state of being? Every day we awakened feeling radiantly alive.

Sign me up for that!

But before you tell me how I can make that happen, we may have left out an important one.

Where does success fit in?

Because after all, for my life to hold any significant meaning, I do need to be highly successful, don’t I?

But wait…

Why do most people live their life unconscious?

Why do many of us still operate under the belief that our lives are predetermined and that we have little to no influence on our reality?

Why do we believe that life is always “doing” something to us?

Why is it so natural for us to blame things outside of us?

This is victim consciousness and unfortunately, it’s the level of consciousness the majority of humanity is playing at.

But where did this come from?

How did this become the status quo of consciousness for humanity?

What is victim consciousness driven by?

Victim consciousness takes root and was…

In any creative endeavor or goal pursuit, success depends on knowing what to include as well as what to exclude.

There’s a skill in being able to separate what you should be focusing on now and what you shouldn’t.

Enter Sturgeon’s Law.

Back in the 1950s, American science fiction author Theodore Sturgeon famously said “90% of everything is crud” when defending widespread criticism against science fiction.

Fast-forward to our modern high-tech, content-on-demand world, Sturgeon was indeed onto something.

For example, Sturgeon’s Law would suggest that 90% of the estimated 2,000,000+ books published each year in the US alone are…

Identity change is where it’s at in self-development.

We’ve seen it touted throughout modern personal growth. Every teacher, author, coach, and spiritual guru highlights the power of changing who you are to create real, lasting change in your life.

But how does one shift their identity?

Simply in two parts: decision and choice.

In the context of consciously creating your life, these are not the same.

Decision is born out of your intention.

You must first decide who you want to be.

If that seems too daunting to answer right now, start by asking who you no longer want to…

Talking about your goals might be killing your mojo.

Popular belief will tell you that publicly declaring your goals boosts the chances of success because it creates accountability and makes you more motivated.

However, a series of research studies at NYU, led by psychologist Peter Gollwitzer suggests that we all might want to rethink that.

Whether you’re chit-chatting about them with your friends or broadcasting them on social media, talking about your goals actually demotivates you and can significantly lessen your chances of achieving them.

From the findings in the study, when goals go public, it artificially closes the intention-behavior…

Who am I to judge? I am not the measuring stick!

We’re all divine beings made from the same stuff.

We are all having the same temporary dream that we’re in this 3D physical reality.

The purpose being for us to remember more of the truth of who we are.

So I am not here to judge, criticize or resent anyone or anything.

Like you, I am only here to awaken and to uncover more and more that which is part of the illusion.

I am here to recognize more and more about myself that is programmed and conditioned.

Then…

Who are you and who do you want to become?

Here’s your self-improvement agenda for today:

• Goals.
• Processes.
• Frameworks.
• Productivity.
• Mindfulness.
• Life hacks.

Tomorrow’s list might be bigger or smaller give or take.

This list goes on in self-development.

However, the most important aspect of personal change which is the building block of all self-development is identity.

It’s what everything on your daily to-do list takes its cue from — because you can’t create a transformation without identity change.

So I ask again: who are you and who do you want to become?

If you read James Clear’s Atomic Habits…

Chores.

Daily activities we do unconsciously.

Waiting.

All of these moments have the potential to be great teachers for nurturing mindfulness and living an awake life.

But who the hell likes doing chores?

Attending to things around your house or apartment is downright annoying sometimes.

What about running errands around town?

All those monotonous, trivial activities that arise throughout the day or week in which we go through the motions as we do them.

The tasks we speed through on auto-pilot so we can return to more pressing matters.

Netflix on the couch anyone?

What if though, we can…